The Observer, February 24, 2006
Volume XXXVIII, Issue 18
Sex & Dating: If you have it, flaunt it
Here it is… the long-awaited Part II to "Feel Happy Naked." Last week's column discussed ways to hide areas you are insecure about by getting creative with sexual positions – after all, there's no need to worry about your butt when all he can see are your breasts, right? (Note: this column was written with the understanding that most guys are already comfortable in the buff, so this column is written to help women catch up.) However, this may not be the best approach. Although hiding your "trouble spots" might help you feel more comfortable while naked, it won't necessarily make you happy to be naked. To be happy that you're naked, you need a reason to be happy that you're naked… and what could be more thrilling than fully enjoying revealing a certain part of you that cannot be fully appreciated when clothed. Turn nakedness from the absence of clothing into the ultimate accessory. You know the Dave Matthews song: "You wear nothing, but you wear it so well." Be that girl.
Part II: If you've got it, flaunt it
The obvious: If you've got great breasts, hop on top. If you like your butt, spin around. (If you can't figure those out on your own, maybe you should just stick to what you're good at, which probably involves just laying there.)
Arms: If you've got nice, defined arms then show them off! When you're on top, try using your arms for leverage instead of your legs. Or have sex upright in a doorway. Wrap your legs around his waist while he holds you up, and press your hands against either side of the door frame to help. Watch those muscles tense!
Stomach: If 300 crunches a night have finally paid off, make sure you show them off. Hop on top with your guy sitting upright. Put your hands behind you, by his knees, and lean back. As you move and rotate your hips, your midsection muscles will tense and flex, showing off your tone line and abs.
Legs: Modify the missionary position by pulling one or both legs up. Start with one leg; it allows you to retain some leverage and involvement. With both legs up, you're at the mercy of your partner. Another great position is lying on your back on a bed, butt all the way to the edge, with your partner standing. (Note: This requires that the bed have the proper height and width… South Side beds are not ideal for this position, since you'll probably hit your head on the wall and your partner might not be tall enough.)
If you are convinced that your body has no redeeming qualities: First of all, you're wrong. Try asking your partner what part(s) of your body he likes the best, and then find a position discussed above that highlights that area or make up your own. If all else fails, just make sure that you know you're the best lay he ever had. How can you not be confident naked when you know that you bring him unparalleled pleasure? Crash course: be enthusiastic, creative, and get into it. Grip his shoulders/back/butt, squeeze your downstairs muscles, make some noise, do some work, and be confident!
